Gentlemen there is proof that the Good Lord above is a man! It was brought to my attention last week that Halle Berry and her second husband of three years singer Eric Benet have filed for divorce. So sad for the couple, yet every single man out there has to be “Harlem Shaking” in their insides just for the simple fact that a woman of this magnitude of beauty is soon to be single again. Thank you God…Amen. Well hold on upon further reflection maybe GOD is a woman. Perhaps GOD is making an example out of beautiful women such as Berry and even Jennifer Lopez (who was headed towards her third marriage until she called it off) that beauty is only skin deep and there needs to be substance to any relationship in order to make it work. So maybe I should say ahlady instead of amen? I mean how can anyone as fine as Halle Berry or Jennifer Lopez get divorced not once BUT twice? Fellas, how many times have you said to yourself or to your boys, “If I had her, I wouldn’t go anywhere or do anything stupid.” So I know most of you men out there is thinking that her first husband David Justice and Eric Benet or Jenny’s first husband and Chris Judd must be a couple of damn fools right? Uhhh well maybe not quite. I mean there has to be a reason why four men left these women. For as many possibilities that there may be, I along with different conversation circles I have participated in have come up with two strong points.

1. There has to be some serious issues going on with these women; either they are crazy (psychological problems), a bitch even or just too damn needy.
OR
2. There’s the philosophy of “For every beautiful woman there is a man that is tired of her. Whether the tired equates to weary of dealing with her on a mental or physical note. He is tired of dealing with the situation.

Sidenote: Ladies I know you all are saying that in “Halle’s last case she left her man because he was cheating on her.” Well he cheated for a reason, and it could be because he’s a dog like so many women characterize us as being, but if that’s the case everyone cheats for a reason, and I don’t believe that “I’m a sex addict” mess for one minute.

Anyway, now I myself am a strong advocate for point number one. No way am I trying to “pop my collar” but I have dated/been in relationships with some very beautiful women. Some that where print and runway models as well as video models (do we call them models as well?) and I have heard many of my male friends as well as others I didn’t know make the same comment that I accused all men making about Ms. Berry. And when things didn’t work out with these females, I got interrogated like I was the FBI Whistleblower, even though the rationale for things not working out was that some of these females had serious issues, that no matter how good they looked you would not want to be with them. Sadly many of them did not care that these females had issues.... there in lies the problem that I am soon getting to.

Point number two holds as much validity as number one; however this point is a little more universal then the first due to the fact that you don’t have to be extremely beautiful for your mate to get tired of you. It also symbolizes the fact that one person’s trash is the next person’s treasure.

People I said all that to say, our society is so superficial that we often look at a persons outside appearance and become attracted to that regardless of what their inside being may resemble, thus causing in the long run nothing but a slew of drama and stress.

Men every lady is not going to look like that female you see in the video and ladies every man is not going to look like a Tommy Hilfiger model. So why don’t you look for that person that is attractive and has attractive qualities who will treat you well and allow you to be happy? He or she may not be that trophy arm piece that many of us desire, but at least your “life mate roster” won’t look like the VIP list for a small club.

Peace

Abstrack

 

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