Who could not resist the modern day night club? Full of superficial conversations, artificial appearances and false status... I could. Now mind you some individuals do go with the intentions of having a good time, tasty cocktail, body grooving music, and pleasant conversation, but I for one am often distracted by all of the club politics that I am presented with. The main one in particular being the five chasing the dime. Now by no means do I mean to come off rude or insulting, but someone other than myself has to have noticed.
Let me explain. Often times there is this perception that one should not go to a nightclub to meet someone, for the intentions of those in the club at times not very virtuous. I beg to differ. Several intelligent, professional, and established young African Americans attend night clubs. Yes, there are "good girls" in the club, and yes they are brothas up in there who are "marriage material". But are people really looking for that? I think so, but unfortunately that is not what they get.

For instance, there are sensible women in the club, but guess what, they often go un-noticed because they have clothes on. No, wifey is not wearing a backless shirt, and hip-huggers with a thong showing, so therefore she may not stand out in your eyes, but she's there. I often hear men say it doesn't matter what a women wears, but come on brotha's, I have see several well-rounded sisters being looked over for that sista with the obvious big-butt. And sisters, meeting a brotha doesn't have to been about how many drinks you can get off of him before you move to the next. Often women look at the one who is flashing the cash, versus the one who is trying to carry on a decent conversation. Some sistas even look beyond physical attraction and choose those based on financial attraction. But sistas haven't you heard that you cannot solve money problems with money. Especially for what you may be sacrificing in return (i.e. intelligence, common sense, respect).

Being a sista who has witnessed this inauthentic dance among men and women in the club has termed this phenomenon as "the 5 chasing a dime theory". Let me explain. People often look for characteristics in others that that do not possess in themselves. Why should you want a dime if you are just a five? If you don't have your act together why do you deserve someone who does? Your partner should compliment you not exceed or trail you.
So, sistas and brothers let's go clubbing with our genuine selves. Leave that pseudo personality at home, and you may meet someone real.