Question
One.
Okay check this scenario:
I met this girl that has a man, but she is tired of his controlling
thugged out lifestyle and plus they have been together for 4
years and ole buddy is IN LOVE...I have a woman and she is a
good person but we just aren’t compatible, I’m watching
CNN and reading the wall street journal and she is still reading
YM, and TEEN PEOPLE and her ass is older than me (24 I’m
21)....
So anyway, we are both cheating on our spouses with each other
as of now. We are confused as hell, we are totally compatible
we like the same music, have the same interest's, we just enjoy
each others company...advice please. Any kind will do.
Answer:
Lady
J:
Interesting scenario. First things first, you must stop yourself
and re-evaluate. Are you staying with your girlfriend because
she is a “safety net” for you? You need to decide
if your girlfriend is the right one for you, if she isn’t
let her go and be by yourself for a minute. I do not recommend
breaking up with your girlfriend for this other women. Although
you two seem to be compatible, I do believe in the old adage
of “misery loves company”. Basically, if both of
your relationships were doing well, you wouldn’t need
the other. Additionally, relationships that start out like this
are often laden with trust issues based on how it started. Get
yourself in check man, if Miss Teen people doesn’t do
it for you, let her go. Then decide if you really want Mrs.
Thug Passion to change her last name.
Question
Two:
I am a 27-year-old
man who is having trouble finding the right woman. I know the
type of woman that I want (sweet, intelligent, professional,
pretty face, nice figure), but I keep attracting these materialistic
“chicken-heads”. I attend a variety of networking
functions, high-end social gatherings, and even intellectual
relationship discussion clubs with no success. I usually meet
a woman that seems like the criteria I listed above, and she
turns out to be a money hungry leech. Should I change my strategy?
Answer:
Ms.
Insight:
First of all using words like “chicken-head, leech, criteria,
and strategy” to describe your interactions with women
concern me. How do you really view women? Is your view of a
woman positive or based on what you see in a music video? How
do you view relationships? Based on your language, it seems
like you view a relationship as a game. Forgive me for being
hard on you, but you cannot contradict yourself by using that
language and expect to find a quality woman. I challenge you
to refer to women and relationships in positive terms. I also
challenge you to also review the characteristics that you look
for in a woman. The qualities that you listed above are usually
not at the club (superficially disguised as networking functions
and social gatherings). Not that going to social gatherings
are bad, just don’t expect to find wife material there.
Also, I will tell you what I tell many women that are looking
for the right man. Strive to be the person that you want to
attract. If you are carrying yourself like a “baller”
then you will more than likely attract a materialistic woman.
If you honestly work on gaining the characteristics that you
want in a woman, you will become a magnet to a quality woman
in no time!
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